I was a late bloomer. During my teenage years, I would always think that someday, everything will work out. I was also really shy and constantly worried what others would think of everything I did. As a result, I turned down many opportunities, purely out of fear. One of the biggest opportunities I turned down when I was 17, was an unconditional offer to study at the London College of Fashion. Why? Because at my interview, I saw other girls with crazy hairstyles and blue lipstick on. I thought to myself “I’m not like that, I’ll get judged and laughed at for not being creative enough”. When I look back now, I realise so many times that opportunities presented themselves to me, I just didn’t take it. So I’m here to share with you all my top 7 ways to get more opportunities in life.
1. GET OUT THERE
Not all opportunities are going to come knocking on your door. You have to go out and find them yourself. There is literally no point thinking that things will happen if you just sit in your house all day! Go to websites like www.meetup.com and find like-minded individuals who you can bounce ideas off.
2. AIM HIGHER
If you only settle for what you already have, then you’ll be completely blinded by any potential opportunities that come your way. Aim high, and then aim even higher. Once you fire up that drive and ambition inside of you, you’ll start to become more creative about how to create and manifest more opportunities in your life.
3. STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK
This is a big one and one that I have struggled with for the most part of my life, so I appreciate that it can be difficult. But you are the only person you have to live with for the rest of your life. Before you can take care of other people, you need to look after number one first (yourself). So if there’s something you’ve wanted to do all your life but you’re worried what others will think about you. Stop. Just stop. It’s not their life, it’s yours. Imagine living for the whole of your life and then looking back and realising you held back with everything and didn’t do what you truly wanted to do, because of other people?!
4. REALISE THE POTENTIAL IN EVERYTHING AROUND YOU
When you look around you, do you realise how much potential there is all around you? When you go out onto the street, do you see the opportunity to help someone who is homeless? Do you see the opportunity to spend time with your loved ones at home? Do you see the opportunity to buy healthier food to eat? What about the opportunity to be grateful for your life?
Do you also see the good in the bad? This means that when something bad happens to you, or when you get rejected or betrayed, do you see this as an opportunity (to grow, to learn, to become more kind and understanding, to practice forgiveness or gratitude?)
Pay attention to the doors that open up for you. Too often, we are blinded to opportunities that present themselves to us. This is the bittersweet beauty of life. When an opportunity presents itself, life doesn’t spell it out to you. It is up to you to see and interpret it as an opportunity.
5. BETTER TO DO AND LEARN, THAN TO REGRET NEVER TRYING
There was a study I read about the top regrets of those who were on their deathbeds. The top regret of those who were dying was that they regretted the things they didn’t do more than the things they did do. What this says to me is that no matter what you do, it’s easier to live with the regret of going for something that was true to you, rather than putting off doing it forever. If ever in doubt, just do it.
6. PAY ATTENTION TO WHO YOU SPEND THE MOST TIME WITH
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. I can definitely appreciate that it is hard to distance yourself from the people in your life that do not serve you. But it’s not about cutting them out, it’s about recognising that they are sucking your energy or pulling you down, and then limiting your time with them. As Ich Loc likes to put it, “love them from a distance”.
7. BE READY TO RECEIVE
Have you ever heard the phrase “when the student is ready, the master will appear”? This is the same principle; when you’re ready to see things as opportunities in your life, they will appear in abundance.
Cardigan: Forever21 Girls (similar here) | Dress: Liz Lisa | Bag: Samantha Thavasa